There's this guy I really like. And I'm pretty sure he likes me too. But he's so shy, and I have no idea what I'm doing in general. It's so much easier to flirt with guys I don't like, and I'm worried he thinks I'm ignoring him or trying to make him jealous (which I'm not) and I feel so self-conscience around him. Any advice on what to do?
Hello there! Okay step one: get your friends to ask his friends if he likes you. sounds a little 2nd grade i know. But trust me it works. Step two. You need to relax. Especially around him. And stop flirting with other guys. (not to sound harsh) But if he sees you flirting with someone else he assumes you dont like him. You say you dont know what you are doing but the chemistry will just flow between the two of you if its meant to happen. But if you really dont, here are some tips: complement his outfit, smile lots (but naturally), laugh at his jokes (but make sure its a joke first… and somewhat funny, otherwise hell know whatsup), When you hang out try and sit by him or across from him, Dont talk to him about other guys either. big no no. Step three. Talk to him, texting included. Get his number if you dont already have it, or even better find a way to get him yours. Step four. Be confident! There is no way your relationship will ever work out if you are self conscience around him. You are beautiful! Learn to work it. What are you even self conscience about? Love who you are and dont worry about what you aren’t. Your right guy will adore everything about you. He wont see what you are self conscience about and will probably find it ridiculous that you feel that way. He will think you are the most beautiful girl he has ever seen. and if he doesn’t? There is someone better.
I hope this helps. Let me know if you have more questions!
There has to be something to having strong feelings for a guy for 7 years right? Even though you have moved past the realm of possibility, you know it won't ever happen but can't stop loving him. That has to mean something right?
Have you ever talked to him about these feelings?
But its possible. Ive had a crush on a guy since the first grade. I still get butterflies when he talks to me. But i know we would never happen.
I am pretty sure I am called to the religious life but i've been doing the 'crash, crush and burn' prayer- kinda asking for a sign on what i should do, but then BGF decides that he should finally ask me out. but i had this awkward crush on him last year and now i processed my way through that, but now he's on the same page i was on and its all so very weird and my cousin/best friend always told me not to date a guy i couldn't see myself marrying and im not sure if i could marry my BGF...
Congrats if you are called! Thats awesome for you. But if you did have feelings at one point the chance that they are still there is very high. Unless you have decided on religious life this could be the sign that you are called to marriage, (then again it could be the final straw that makes you realize religious life is the right choice( whoops now im just being confusing)) Does he know you think you are being called to religious life? Because then it would be a bit easier to explain your decision not to pursue “more” with him. But thats how i am. Unless i see myself marrying the guy im not going to lead either of us on (But dont forget you wont know unless you try, so at least try) But if you guys are that close its possible you already know.
my roomie and i split food so i'm currently on my second cookie. Her grandma always sends extra for me, she's the best! I am super stressed out because I took three Honors classes, and 16 credit hours plus i'm a dual chair for my sorority and everything is really starting to pick up and then on top of all of that, my best guy friend just asked me to take our relationship to something more and i'm terrified of losing the only guy I can really trust
Grandma’s cookies sound so good right now… im eating crackers and cheese and ham. so hungry. Congrats on being smart enough to be in honors and take those classes! Just remember that when you start to stress! “I can do this, I can handle this, I am here for a reason” and dual chair for your sorority? Thats awesome! But you are never given more than you can handle so just keep trucking! You can do it! You are awesome! And oh man. Boys complicate life so much. But how do you feel about him? Because if you have any type of feelings for him, I’d say go for it. It could be the best decision you ever make. The risk would be worth it. Because your boyfriend, fiance, husband would be your best friend. and who wouldnt want that? Now if you dont have those feelings. The situation becomes sticky. You will have to find a way to explain your fear of losing the one guy you can trust and that you dont see it working out. But first, how do you feel?
Hey I am having a super stressful day and all I want to do is either eat everything in sight (WHY DID MY ROOMIE BRING BACK HER GRANDMA'S DELICIOUS COOKIES?!?!?!) or cry my eyes out. Life is spiraling out of control
Story of my life. All i wanna do is eat eat eat no matter what. How rude of your roommate. And whats worse? living at home, where i have no real food, but somehow manage to eat. But back to the serious part of your message. Why are you so stressed? Turns out i am a fantastic listener, so feel free to rant as much as your heart desires.
Oh man i watch way to many shows/movies. But one that makes me laugh? Well we recently watched the legend of bigfoot and i laughed super hard in that. But i love shows like Dance Moms and Any Kardashian show when i need a laugh
erin, puhlease. you are not the girl no one wants. honestly the best thing to do if you feel that way is to get out as much as possible, and don’t turn down invites. you never know what (or who) will happen on a spontaneous adventure.
Thats whats hard. Im having such a fun time in college. And this past weekend i hung out with the Phi Kaps. and I barely thought of Tyler…
i know exactly how ya feel, darlin. if he’s not the same in person and doesn’t make the effort, then you might not be very happy in the long run :(
I dont want to hurt him. And I dont like not know how i feel. And instead of smiling at his texts im usually upset now a days. But if i tell him im not sure i feel the same way im going to go back to the lonely girl no guy wants.
He could tell i was acting different and asked if i felt the same way about him that he felt about me( he really really likes me) and i freaked out. I couldnt answer. I dont know how i feel. I rushed my feelings in the beginning at the thought of a guy that might actually like me back. Its such a rarity that i didnt want to lose it. But now i dont know. I still think about other guys, and i dont know if i actually really like him anymore. He always talked big talk while texting but in person he would never say the same things unless pushed. when we hung out its because i tried. I would stop at his place on my way home. and i think i got sick of being the only one putting effort into it in person. Hes all about making me happy and doing what i want but sometimes i just want his opinion not what he thinks i want to hear.
Im not much of a hater, but there are people that i cant stand. But since im not in high school anymore its very easy to avoid them. The guy im thinking of that i cant stand to be around anymore use to be a good friend but i got fed up with him making fun of me and always yelling at me and going out of his way to tell me im wrong.